Conflicts and realities
A lot has changed about the way couples are today, in comparison with the times of our parents and grandparents.
Of course, not just the couples changed, but also our lifestyles as well.
We tend to have busier and busier lives, spending more time away than together with the people we love.
We are in a constant chase for money and security, forgetting that there are simpler things in life that make our life more beautiful.
These days, people are wearier when it comes to commitment, marrying at a late age, or choosing not to marry at all.
There are people that consider commitment and marriage just a way to sparkle fights among two persons. Because the lack of commitment seems to make people be easygoing.
There are many things that can start conflicts in today’s couples, some of them being old, while some are specific to the times we live.
For instance, money is not a new cause for conflicts between two people involved in a relationship. Because the insufficiencies present in people’s lives were always present, regardless of time.
But today, when so many possibilities are present, when women work as much as men, providing for the family, are the conflicts for money justified?
The reality of this conflict is that other issues start a misunderstanding, not money itself.
There are cases in which the woman makes more money than the man, so he will end up not feeling in charge or not having a decisional power.
Or there is the insecurity concerning tomorrow, people fearing that they will have to face hardships in the future.
There are other matters and frustrations that come with the mask of fighting about money in today’s couples.
Many couples of today have conflicts about time and work. It is enough to take a look around and see that we spend time working, else away from our family.
And there are many people in this situation.
So, we end up hearing reproaches from our partners that we neglect them, not having time anymore to listen to them and to spend time in their company. Well, in this case, this is the reality.
Most people don’t consider spending time with the family a priority. Working hard so that each member of the family, or their partner, to have everything they need.
Is that a good thing? It may be a good thing up to one point.
When we end up neglecting our partners and family because of work, when we don’t get to see our children grow because we are always away, this is when problems occur.
For our happiness and stability within the couple. We need to do something and dedicate some time to spending with the people we love.
The real issue of modern couples is the lack of time, communication, and support for each other.
We don’t allow time for listening to our partners, to talk about problems in a quiet manner. To still do some activities together that are enjoyable for both persons involved in that relationship.
Until we slow down the pace and focus on the things that really matter, unnecessary conflicts will occur.