Jealousy can do a lot of damage in a relationship, making one partner feeling like being kept in a cage, while the other partner will act badly without a real reason.
In a couple, it is normal not to like for your partner to be courted by others. Because you love that person and you want to have a happy life together.
But feeling this way because of love and suffering of jealousy is a very big difference.
It can slowly erode the relationship, the idea of a happy life a couple just a dream that will happen.
But, why does jealousy appears in a couple?
This problem appears due to possession, lack of trust, and lack of communication.
Some people like to be possessive, considering their partner more as a good they own. Rather than a being that can be beautiful in the eyes of others as well.
After all, you can’t poke everybody’s eyes so they can stop looking at your partner.
Still, being possessive with your partner is not healthy, because no one will enjoy being to suspect all the time for nothing.
Also, jealousy appears because there is a lack of trust and communication between the partners.
Do you know why your partner picked you out of so many other people out there? If you are jealous, you certainly do not know the reasons that made you her or his pick.
Since your partner enjoys being with you, does everything he or she can to show you just how important you are, being proud to present you as his or her partner, there is no reason not to trust your loved one. Without trust, you won’t be able to build a sturdy relationship.
In essence, we feel jealous because we worrying that our partner will find someone else that is more appealing to them and end up rejecting us.
That would definitely hurt our feelings; this is why jealousy activating in us, as a way to defend ourselves from any unwanted surprises.
But, conflicts born out of jealousy can end a relationship, so it is something very bad to have around if you want to be a happy couple.
A person is usually jealous because he or she feels insecure about their own person.
If you are jealous, you need to work on your self-esteem.
You need to know that you are worthy, and beautiful, and generous. Have a lot of other qualities that will keep your partner in a relationship with you.
Also, you need to be aware that all the things you may believe and suspect are unreal. After all, do you have a proof that your partner is not loyal?
Do not count glares and smile exchanges, because all polite people do that.
Do not misinterpret the fact that your partner may communicate very well with a co-worker of an opposite sex, because it is normal for people to collaborate and interact this way.
The point is to not allow jealousy to take over your life and destroy it.
Everybody is innocent until the opposite is proven. It is not worth consuming your energy on things that do not exist.