To overcome a separation,
To overcome a separation from the person you love is not an easy thing. It is easier when you are the one calling the separation, but this is not the topic of today.
In a couple, a separation can occur after a breakup or divorce, or it can be the result of geographical distances between the two.
Many people have to travel due to work or studies, leaving their partners at home, waiting.
In any of these cases, there is the need for an accommodation period in which you learn how to live without your partner.
Whatever the reason for your separation might be, you need to know how to manage it so it will affect your life as little as possible.
Separation comes with loneliness
Probably the worst side-effect of a separation, regardless if it is a breakup or distance, is the feeling of loneliness.
It is the immediate thing that will occur once we are on our own.
Even if couples separated by distance, because of studies or work, still have to face the feeling of loneliness.
In each case, a person goes from being used to sharing time and space with someone else, with having all the time and space for itself.
You should not allow loneliness to take over you because it can be damaging to your mental health and social skills.
Whatever has happened does not matter anymore, the only thing you could do is move on, to the next chapter of your life. It is not your fault.
It is just how life is. Don’t try too hard to forget a person, even if your relationship is over for good because time will solve that.
To get over it faster, think about the bad aspects of your relationship, the ones that made you have a hard time wishing that you would not be in a relationship with that person.
For the persons that face distance, technology provides a wide range of tools for communication, so take advantage of them as often as possible.
Getting in touch with that person or showing your emotional side will not help
After separated from someone, you have the urging impulse to call him or her, to sent text messages.
Do anything to get the chance to talk to that person.
You are tempting to show your emotional side, as an attempt to make that person change his or her mind when they realize that you are suffering.
Well, you won’t be able to achieve anything by doing so, and this certainly will not help you feel better in any way possible.
Also, it would be extremely wise not to answer their calls, texts, even their social connections.
This will show them that you are strong and that you can make it without them, not being the soft and helpless person they thought you were.
If you do so, there is a high chance that they will be knocking at your door or looking for you at work, having a lame excuse to see you. But, this is not a good thing, though.
If this person made you suffer and did not respect you as you deserved, use short sentences to tell them that you have already accepted your separation and you are already moving on.
Spending too much time with your ex is never a good idea, as they might trick you into caving in.